by Sasha Brown Worsham
We talk a lot here about marriages that end and marriages
that go bad. We talk about cheating and lying and all kinds of crappy things
that men do to women and women do right back to men. But it's not all bad.
Some marriages are actually rock solid. I would say the
grand majority of the marriages I see on any given day are strong and the two
people are committed both to each other and to their children. Do I sound
overly optimistic? I'm not. I understand things can go bad. I have seen many,
many bad marriages. But I have also seen a whole lot of great ones. I asked
around and came up with six signs your marriage is actually rock solid. Here
they are:
He (or she) is the first person you want to call when you
have good news: I can't imagine ever wanting to talk to anyone more than my
husband when I get a promotion or a raise or a good review or something sweet
from a friend. He is it. He is my best friend and my favorite confidant.
Your idea of a "date night" involves him and the
couch: If just spending time together alone sounds dreamy to you, no matter
what you are doing, you are probably still in love and probably in a great
marriage.
You fantasize about a weekend alone with him or her: A lot
of women can't wait to get AWAY from their man. If you still salivate at the
idea of alone time with no kids bugging you and unrestricted access to his
nether regions, then yes. I am thinking you are still pretty solid.
He still makes you laugh more than anyone: I will say until
the day I die that the key to a good marriage is laughter. You must also want
to see one another naked, but laugh a lot first. It makes everything all
better. Promise.
Even though you have been together forever, the smell of his
or her neck is still amazing: Yup, you are still in love.
When he is away, you still curl up on your side of the bed:
You miss him in the bed and would not dream of taking his spot.